You’re Not Broken: Sex, Shame & Self-Love (ft. Dirty Lola)

In Bed With Alexa · 2025-05-15

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola (@dirtylola) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance.

From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into:

Her early sex-positive explorations and yes—high school sex parties!

The complex layers of body image, fatphobia, and family shame

How shame shows up in our sex lives and what to do about it

Why orgasms don’t equal worth, and how to stop performative sex

What she’s learned about micropenises, penis shame, and making pleasure work for everyone

How to start loving your body—even before it’s your “goal body”

Tips on letting go of external validation and dressing for YOU

Aging, menopause, and staying slutty at every stage of life

How to be a better partner by showing up with kindness and compliments

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😏 Want to hear more behind the scenes? On Patreon, you’ll find the unedited version of this episode, stories from my personal dating life, and access to my Close Friends list on Instagram

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